Process-Oriented Success: A Shift in Perspective
Many of us have been taught to measure success by the outcomes we achieve: getting the promotion, losing the weight, eliminating anxiety, or achieving a perfect relationship. However, this focus on outcomes can sometimes make us feel stuck, frustrated, or even like failures if things don’t go exactly as planned.
In ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), we focus on a different kind of success—one based on the process of engaging in meaningful actions, rather than just the final results. This shift allows for greater psychological flexibility, increased self-compassion, and a more fulfilling life.
Step 1: Identify Areas Where Outcome-Focused Thinking Holds You Back
Think about areas of your life where you may be overly focused on achieving a specific outcome. This might be in work, relationships, mental health, or personal growth.
Some examples:
“I will only be successful if I lose 20 pounds.”
“I can’t be happy unless I eliminate my anxiety.”
“If I don’t get this job, I’m a failure.”
Now, write down one or two areas where you find yourself thinking in this way:
Step 2: Reframe Success in Terms of Process
For each area, consider how you might redefine success in terms of engaging in meaningful action rather than achieving a particular outcome.
Examples:
Instead of "I must lose 20 pounds to be successful," shift to "Success means moving my body regularly in ways that align with my values of health and well-being."
Instead of "I must eliminate my anxiety to be happy," shift to "Success means practicing skills like mindfulness and defusion while continuing to engage in meaningful activities."
Now, rewrite your own definitions of success:
Step 3: Take Committed Action
Now that you’ve redefined success in a process-oriented way, identify one small action you can take that aligns with your values right now, regardless of the outcome.
Examples:
If your value is connection, success might mean reaching out to a friend today, even if you feel anxious about it.
If your value is creativity, success might mean writing for 10 minutes, even if it doesn’t result in a finished product.
Write down one small committed action you can take this week:
Reflection:
After completing this exercise, reflect on how shifting to process-oriented success might change your experience of challenges in your life.
What emotions come up when you let go of outcome-based success?
How does focusing on the process impact your motivation?
What values feel most important to you as you take these actions?
Final Thought:
By focusing on the process rather than the outcome, you allow yourself to move forward without getting stuck in fear, self-doubt, or perfectionism. Success is not about achieving a perfect outcome—it’s about showing up, taking action, and living in alignment with your values.
You are already succeeding simply by engaging in this process.